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As a straight woman formerly married to a gay man who married me because he thought it was the “right thing to do” and then decided after 25 years to come out and be true to himself and me, I believe that my experience and those of other straight spouses of gay or lesbian partners […]

On Oct. 11, National Coming Out Day, I had the good fortune of attending the BOLD Awards at the San Francisco LGBT Community Center, for which I’m a Founding Donor. It was thrilling to hear the phrase “lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender” over and over from honorees and center volunteers. In contrast, whenever I give […]

Tucked in a corner of the lesbian/gay/bisexual/transgender closet is a little-known group: straight women and men in heterosexual marriages whose husbands or wives come out as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender after marrying them as “the right thing to do.” Finding the marriages too difficult to maintain due to their hidden sexual orientation or gender […]

Watching the two sides of the debate over Proposition 8 polarize here in California, as I read the papers, watch TV, follow web, and proselytize for its defeat, I’m more and more fearful that Prop 8 might pass and what they might mean for all of us, straight and gay. For that reason, I’m more […]